9 Things That Will Absolutely Stress Any INFJ Out

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By Christine Chen

1. Trying to keep track of too many details

INFJs are big-picture thinkers and conceptualizers, which means they like to synthesize bits and pieces of essential information in order to form a cohesive image that serves a purpose in the grand scheme of things. They get very overwhelmed when they have to deal with too many little (and oftentimes, frivolous) details because doing so goes against their natural tendency to form a holistic perspective that they understand best.

2. Being compared to other people

This by far causes the most stress for an INFJ. INFJs by their nature are people-pleasers, but at the same time, they’re highly individualistic. Growing up, they’ve been told that they weren’t good enough compared to others, so it’s no wonder why they experience so much anxiety in trying to prove others wrong by forcing themselves to be the exact opposite of who they really are. Whenever they’re compared to others who are conventionally successful, attractive, and well-liked, they believe that they’re somehow innately not as worth much to society, and this buries them deep in depression and guilt.

3. Being deliberately ignored and excluded

Although INFJs love solitude, they also enjoy connecting with people and forming deep friendships. However, when groups of people with cliquish tendencies deliberately ignore them and make them feel like they don’t belong, INFJs feel deeply hurt and even resentful for not being loved or appreciated the way they are.

4. Fear-mongering and controlling authority figures

INFJs don’t deal well with these types of authority figures because they resent being controlled in any manner. As autonomous and individualistic self-starters, INFJs desire the freedom to choose and do what’s best for them, so they despise it when an authority figure takes that power away. They crumble under the pressure of trying to meet the demands of authority figures who only use fear and manipulation to control the way people think, speak, and act.

5. Having ego-centric goals imposed on them

INFJs are compelled to do things out of the joy of their heart, but because they are expected to adhere to conventional standards, they experience a tremendous amount of stress trying to chase after goals that only serve the ego and neglect their inner spirit. They hate being told that their worth is nothing unless they prove that they can somehow be used as a means to an end in a competitive, profit-driven society.

6. Conflict

INFJs tend to avoid conflict of any kind, at all costs, because they are peacemakers and desire connectedness and compromise for the sake of a higher purpose, which would benefit all parties involved. They associate conflict with chaos, aggressive accusations, and scathing remarks used only for insulting the opposing side. Anything that disrupts their inner peace can give them panic attacks and cripple them for days.

7. Any unexpected last-minute change of plans

They love planning ahead, so they tend to hyperventilate whenever something unexpected disrupts their day and makes a dent to their plans. To INFJs, dealing with last-minute changes is equivalent to Post-traumatic stress disorder because their internal world is disrupted, and they take days to recover whenever something doesn’t turn out as planned.

8. Being told they’re worthless

INFJs know how much they’re worth and what they have to offer, but at the same time, they self-deprecate a lot based on conventional ideas of what a “good and successful” person should look like. They struggle with intense feelings of worthlessness because of how people in the past taught them that self-worth is conditional and only given when they achieve certain milestones on a cookie-cutter timeline.

9. Lack of quality me-time

INFJs burn out easily and are extremely sensitive to external pressure, so they need more time to recharge, disconnect from the world, and pursue solitary activities for the sake of joy and personal fulfillment.

What It Means To Be An Introvert With Depression

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By Alyssa Lynn Malmquist

What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you smiling more? Why aren’t you talking? Why aren’t you having fun? Is everything okay? Did something happen? Why can’t you snap out of it?

These are some of the questions commonly spit at someone who isn’t so visually energized. Although the person may not display outward, they could be enjoying their time even more so than you, even if that’s not the story their face is telling.

Introverts don’t always mesh well in a social environment, and to no one’s surprise, depression doesn’t either. Depression is still unknown to a lucky some, and it can be difficult to talk about while even harder to understand.

Introverts are constantly labeled negatively based on peripheral judgment while internally, they could just be re-charging. Perhaps they’re reflecting or taking in a new environment using energy that runs out at the speed of light.

So, with depression added to the mix, the behavior can be more than off-putting pushing the people closest to you away. Temporarily, this is what the introvert wants, but the opposite of what the depressed person needs. Introverts find solace in isolation as it allows them to charge their batteries and prepare for their next interaction. It’s hardest to feel energized in unfamiliar settings or with people you hardly know. So, when the person is also depressed, it makes it even more difficult to ask for the help they so desperately need. The energy is not there as comfort in seclusion grows. This comfort is masked as something positive, as loneliness trickles in alongside hopelessness and depression.

Being on the receiving end can be tough to comprehend and take on. So, pushing these people away can feel natural even though it’s the opposite of what they need. Asking for help is hard enough for anyone, but with the debilitating duo of depression and the behavior of an introvert, it feels impossible to seek help. Your introverted nature puts you inside a bubble while depression keeps you there. Depression keeps you there while pushing you further inside, to the point where you no longer see a point in breaking out.

If you have a friend that shows these signs, know that help is not simple. You alone can’t help the problem, but you can be a part of the solution. Helping someone with introverted tendencies that are battling depression is complex. What your friend needs most is support. What your friend needs is the help they didn’t ask for. Don’t let them push you away; they need you more than they can communicate.