The Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is available on a few sites completely free & is is an “assessment that was designed to help you better understand what makes you tick, how you relate to others, and how you can benefit from this knowledge in everyday life.”
This site has different options for sites to take the test on. I suggest the HumanMetrics one to start, but none are too long so I chose to do a few to see if the results were the same (they were). It is pretty hard to “doctor” any responses because of the nature of the questions… check it out!
After taking the test, you will be assigned to one of 16 different combinations:
Thera are so many resources to look further into whatever personality type that you fit with, and some are extremely in depth that, (at least in my experience) left me with my mouth hanging open, because they were so relatable.
My Personality Type: INFJ – Future posts will focus on all things INFJ.
When people talk about mental illness, they always say people who are struggling need to reach out, but when you are struggling, reaching out can feel impossible. Reaching out can be the last thing you want to do.
There is an expectation that when someone is struggling with self-harm, suicidal thoughts, etc., it is their responsibility to reach out and tell someone.
But what happens when you’ve reached out time and time again, only to be met with criticism? What happens when you’ve reached out time and time again, only to be met with fear? Only to be met with anger or misunderstanding? What happens when reaching out isn’t helpful?
Telling someone about your struggles is difficult. You never know what reaction someone is going to have, and when you’ve had a negative reaction before, reaching out again seems even more difficult than before. It feels like a risk.
When you reach out to someone and don’t receive the help you need, remember these things:
You are important.
You are worth it.
No one is perfect.
Sometimes, people do not understand what you are going through. You will not always be met with perfect responses. People may make you feel broken or like a burden, but you are not. People might make you feel guilty for feeling what you feel, but you are only a human being.
Someone else’s inability to be there for you in a healthy way does not mean you are not worth it or cared for.
Needing to be reminded of your worth is okay. Needing to have someone hold your hand on the hard nights is okay. Needing people is okay.
Having needs is okay.
You are in a fight that feels like it’s never going to end, but it will.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked…
You are not as fat as you imagine Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday
Do one thing everyday that scares you
Sing Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts
don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours
Floss Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind…
the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults
if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements
Stretch Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life… the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t
Get plenty of calcium Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary… what ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s
Enjoy your body
use it every way you can…
don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it
it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own
Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly
Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good Be nice to your siblings they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
because the older you get the more you need the people you knew when you were young Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft Travel Accept certain inalienable truths prices will rise politicians will philander you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable politicians were noble and children respected their elders Respect your elders Don’t expect anyone else to support you Maybe you have a trust fund maybe you have a wealthy spouse but you never know when either one might run out Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85 Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it Advice is a form of nostalgia dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth But trust me on the sunscreen
This is a series about learning how to survive, exist, and find a way to actually LIVE without feeling as though it is a burden. I am no expert at this, just trying to figure it all out like the rest of us. I want this series to be helpful, familiar, relatable and comforting to people who are trying to find out what the fuck is going on in their mind.
Snowboarding and Suicide will explore the dirty details and raw truths behind suicide, mental illness, and survival – with no sugar coating. Like the different kinds of depression and how to recognize them, and the fucked up things you deal with after a failed suicide attempt.
S&S will also (not surprisingly) be about SNOWBOARDING and why that is what sparked the creation of a blog at all. My goal isn’t to become the female Red Gerard, just to use something I already know and enjoy as a sort of anchor to attach all other aspects of your life. I will explain how finding YOUR “snowboarding” can help you improve your happiness, happiness, finances, discipline, you name it. More on this later**
After surviving a suicide attempt – you need to relearn how to live and what to do with the life you thought was over. This is not an easy thing. I hope to use my fucked up story to better understand how we can all try to be a little better each day and if we can’t, at least we know we aren’t alone. I’d love feedback and sharing of your own stories or advice on the subject.
I’m sure tons of NEWYEARNEWME involves quitting smoking. I’m about to brag right now – so hop off if you aren’t into it. When I am absolutely ready, I can and have quit many substances. Cigarettes included. This time has not been as easy, and while literally zero of my New Year’s Resolutions have ever stuck – I am TWO WEEKS without a cigarette! Fuck yeah. You can do it too.
If this happens to be one of my first few posts, I apologize. But shit’s getting real. So, y’all, LEXAPRO. I have taken every anxiety medication under the sun, but not so much antidepressants. A recent failed (more later) suicide attempt led me to this medication. While I’m lucky to not have most side effects… the night cold sweats are real. My insomnia is already as fucking real as it is almost a funny joke. The constant changing throughout the night sure is NOT making it better. Of course I have done my fair share of google searches but I need to prepare myself if this is a forever thing but
It is a bittersweet thing. I feel like my mind is getting right but my body is just shitting on my goddamn dreams to be happy.