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By Leena Sanders
I think we have this huge misconception about what love is what love is not. Current day we are so determined for everything in our lives to look and feel so perfect, so molded, and so edited that the second something feels bad a lot of us first think about just leaving whatever doesn’t feel great. We’d rather swim on our own than ride the waves to mellow water. Don’t get me wrong, some relationships are destined to end and it’s a beautiful thing that they do. However, when the amount of effort and dedication is the problem rather than the people and their habits + who they are, that’s where love gets lost.
The truth is, love is not always convenient.
Love is not always steamy sex and beautiful handwritten letters.
Love does not always sound appealing, you do not always crave it.
Love does not always feel like date nights and cloud nine.
Love is not always planning your future and falling in love with the same vision of it.
Love is not always convenient.
Love is asking how your person’s day was when you are exhausted.
Love is feeling mentally drained but still showing appreciation for the fact that your socks have been folded and there is a love note on the mirror for you.
Love is seeing the bigger picture, it’s being willing to ride the waves because you see the bigger picture.
Love is selfless, it communicates, and it even communicates when the words that are being spoken don’t feel so good.
Love does not always happen in the moments that you want it to, sometimes the timing of love accompanies the timing of grief in ways that are unimaginable.
Love is not always a steady pace at sea but love rides waves to shore.
I think we need to remember that love has more to do with our own commitment to unconditional appreciation and gratitude and less to do with temporary moments that we don’t feel full.
Love is about learning your own personal map to fulfillment while still crediting and honoring your experience with another.
Love is knowing it’s not convenient and still daring to show up anyway.